Hmmm…we all have that one friend. You know..that one friend that is inappropriate publicly (not in private like the rest of us) For some, I am their inappropriate friend! It all depends on your lifestyle and personality, as to the threshold that has to be met to achieve inappropriate friend status in someone’s life. Currently, if I am being honest, I have allot of inappropriate friends. To be very blunt, I wouldn’t have it any other way. They are the spice of life! One inappropriate friend in particular sticks out of my bundle of inappropriate friends like a sore ingrown toenail. Her inappropriateness often hits next level on the inappropriate friend charts. Why you ask? Because she is raw, real, blunt, sarcastic, expressive, passionate, a little bit redneck, and funny as all hell! She is one of the reasons life is so entertaining. We can’t go 5 minutes without some sort of insane chaos and explosion of laughter. To some people her personality is offensive. And that’s whatever…to each their own. Not everyone can appreciate some extremely great inappropriateness…and that’s okay. To some, typically the introverts, she is overwhelming. To me, an extrovert, she is right at eye level! Never overwhelming and never too much… she is my people. This type of friend offers many things. One quality is that you never feel judged. If your inappropriate friend has made it to that level, then you are never the crazy one. By default, they are always crazier than you (even if they receive better scores on the mental health assessment than you!) Another great quality is that they make you look like the calm one. If we are being honest here, we all know that in our different friendship circles we carry different roles. Whilst standing next to your inappropriate friend..YOU ARE THE CALM ONE! (in my Maury Povitch voice) If you are a high strung person, these inappropriate friends give you a moment to relax and really feel what it’s like to be considered the calm friend. It’s a good break from the regular routine. Another great quality to these friends is their loyalty. All and I mean ALL of my inappropriate friends carry a trait of lotalty. I’m not sure if it was Nature or Nurture for these friends. I have no clue what causes them (even my friends who don’t know each other…it’s not like inappropriate friends run in some pack or something) to be so loyal?? I will say, that I love this characteristic about them! I appreciate this trait in them so much. Not that I don’t have other loyal friends..it just adds to the spice of my inappropriate ones. For example, if I had some sort of unfortunate event in life my appropriate friends would comfort me to the extent of what is socially acceptable for whatever event may have occurred. (Which I am extremely thankful for..don’t misunderstand what I am saying) My inappropriate friends would come barging through my front door, ask me who’s tires need to be slit, (even if it had nothing to do with an individual..and fyi, it’s a saying..no one is slitting any tires) and they wouldn’t give me a choice of telling them to go. They would sit there while I go through whatever emotional process I need to go through to feel better. They ain’t scared…as we say in Oklahoma! These friends do not shy away from the socially unacceptable..they run to it! Let’s bring it back to my friend that I was talking about earlier. She embodies all these characteristics that I just mentioned. She is also, very often, misunderstood in society. I understand why, because at times I feel misunderstood for all the same reasons as her. I am loud, I talk with my whole body and many facial expressions, (you never wonder how I feel..you can clearly see it) and I AM overwhelming. What I can’t understand is why people are so offended by this?? When did we become a society that gets offended because someone asks you a question? Does the question have to be presented just right in order for you to not be offended? You have a person in front of you that is a funny, loyal, and passionate person. But you can’t see that because you get offended by something that society tells us is not acceptable. (Whether it be body language, personality, or societal order and norms) Here is what I have to say to that….you’re a fool…get over yourself. You are wasting precious time in life and you are missing the beauty of people around you. God created these overwhelming, inappropriate people with a purpose. Just like he created you for a purpose. My inappropriate friends are the best. They love me, they love my family, and they are for my marraige. To me it doesn’t really get better than that in a friend. I will sum up this blog with a final thought (like Jerry Springer) Sorry, crazy talk shows seem to keep popping into my mind for some reason. Anyway, the final thought is this…don’t shy away from that inappropriate friend. In fact if you don’t have one, I highly recommend that you start advertising for one. Just kidding..but really, life is better when you have your people there making you laugh and lifting you up. All I can do is hope that I am to them what they are to me!
PS. To the leader of my inappropriate friends..you know who you are… Don’t ever change or shy away from who you are. You have an amazing heart underneath all that crazy.. I see you!
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