Hmmm..

At what point in life did you learn to see situations for what they are and not what you are imagining them to be? Did you ever learn? I know for me it took well into my twenties to see things objectively and not emotionally. I’m still perfecting this fine art.. I haven’t always made the best decisions..(if you’ve read some of my other blogs you are well aware of this known fact!) I used to be ashamed of my mistakes, but now I’m rather proud of them. Not that I made bad choices, but proud that I learned from them. They’ve brought me to this fabulous life I live. However, I have gotten much better at being objective and less reactionary. My husband is a master at being objective. He is the strong, silent type. You know..the exact opposite of me!! He’s the guy that people never know if he likes them or not at first meeting. He has to be around you multiple times before he shows any emotion toward you. I, on the other hand, can meet a stranger on the street and have a conversation about the wonders of the world without an uncomfortable moment occuring. So like I said, we are exact opposites!! He looks at opposition in life with no dramatic reaction…most of the time. (He will get dramatic quickly if it involves our children in any way.) He’s a passionate dad, that’s for sure. But most of the time, he’s the calm, cool, collected type. Looking back on our marraige I see all the times that I’m flipping a wig over things that are so trivial. I remember him talking me down, reminding me that life is bigger than whatever is bothering me. Credit to him for teaching me something I didn’t learn or pick up as a child. Through his example, I’ve found peace with myself. Now back to the main point of all this…when did you learn that concept? Did your parents teach you? A friend? A teacher? It’s amazing to feel all the emotions of the world, but sometimes all of those emotions are the same thing that keep us from learning what we are meant to learn. For example, healthy vs. unhealthy relationships. Relationships are the most emotionally charged situations we will ever be involved in throughout our lives. However, they can be healthy and unhealthy. Do you have a friend that has gone from one bad relationship to the next and just can’t ever figure out why things keep ending up badly? Is it you that has that problem? Do you ever stop to think objectively about what causes the demise of those relationships or what characteristics you are looking for in a partner? Do you ever stop to think about yourself and how you view life and those relationships? Let me be the first to say that I got extremely lucky with my husband. I never stopped to really analyze my decisions and choices. I totally lucked out with the life and partner that I have. I do, however, want my children, my friends, and my family to be better than I was…better than I am. They may not be so lucky. I want them to learn about themselves, what they want in life, what they want in a partner, and be strong enough to go get it! Don’t we all want to see that for our loved ones? To sum this up…the thought for today is: are you learning from your mistakes, not just in relationships but all your mistakes? Are you praying? Are you reflecting? Are you building up strength to make the right choices for yourself? Something to chew on…have a great weekend everyone!